Get your own!

‘Ndinoda murume ane bhegi” (“I want a rich man”)! This seems to be a popular statement these days. We all want a man that can take care of us but does this really mean we have to go hunting for the filthy rich guys and put up with all their nonsense just because you want all the designer bags and shoes and expensive cars? Some women have resorted to dropping out of school claiming all they need to do is get married to a filthy rich man. We are focusing more on ways to hook the “rich men” than anything! At the end of the day is it really worth it? There’s a saying I would rather be miserable in my Lamborghini than on a bicycle. I have used that statement so many times but does this Lamborghini I have to be a man’s? Why can’t you work on making your own money?

Everything we do has consequences especially “: easy money”. Very few women will come out in the open and actually admit that behind the expensive clothes he buys for her lies nothing but misery.  Some want out but they are in too deep. They have seen things that they cannot repeat to anyone or are too ashamed to repeat. Some have accepted the abuse that comes with this “lavish” lifestyle. Some have entered marriage with expectations of a luxurious life and have found out the hard way that all that glitters is not gold.

We spend so much energy “fighting” for gender equality and yet we are the very same people that are begging for men to oppress us. You feel we don’t have enough rights but you feel it’s okay to sell yourself short by becoming “his slave” for the love of money. No wonder men laugh in our faces when we bring up gender equality.  Vamwe hamuchatobvi kwa Dr Sugar! Come now ladies! When that muti back fires (which it will) what are you going to do? You can only “renew” mushonga for so long. Kuzvitsvagira nhamo! Are you afraid to work hard to get your own?

Stop selling yourself short! We can do so much better! Let his money be a bonus to what you can achieve on your own and not your contract with the devil!

~mimie ~